Lydia’s Story

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Working closely with the girls at Shadow of His Wings and hearing their horror stories made it difficult to find peace. I feel surrounded by pain.

 

A 13-year-old, Lydia, suffered abuses that no little girl should endure. Damaged and not having a normal bowel movement caused torment. The doctor said she required surgery. We made plans for that to happen, and I would be by her side.

 

The report on Lydia didn’t say who abused her. She did say the pastor was one of them. That tore into me that these children could not trust a person who claimed to be a man of God.  There didn’t seem to be many safe places for these children. This is one of the reasons we started Shadow as a refuge for them.

 

The surgery went well, and I stayed with Lydia in the hospital until the next night. House parents from the Home came to relieve me for the night. The day after this, Lydia’s doctor released her. Joanne and I made plans for her to stay with me while she healed. This hyper child needed reminding to stay still for healing. Thank the Lord for TV.

 

One night, Lydia shared a concern. “Mama Carroll, I want to stay here in Shadow, but I’m worried about my sister.”

 

“What do you think might happen to her?”

 

“I’m afraid the same thing that happened to me will happen to her, and there won’t be anybody to help her.”

 Her words were cries for help. “Lydia, we need to be in prayer for her, and I will talk to our social worker to see what they can do to help her.”

 

Lydia loved taking a shower with warm water. Most Guatemalans have cold water because they couldn’t afford a showerhead that warms the water. After she finished, I took my turn only to find out that she had used all the water. Oh well, I would wait. What little enjoyment she has in life is important.

 

Gerber and Joanne came for a visit and brought Lydia her homework. She completed everything quickly. As we visited, she surprised me by saying she wanted to be a forensic doctor.

 

“Oh my chica mia. Why are you thinking about going into forensics?”

 

“I heard the doctors talking about justice when someone had been seriously injured or killed. I found it interesting. I would like to see justice for what was done to me and others.”

 

She could set aside all the pain and abuse to think of a future to help others.

 

” I want that too, Lydia. Maybe the Lord put that desire in your heart. We can surely pray about it.”  

 

Lydia’s walking improved with only a slight leaning toward the side with the stitches, so I took her back to the Home. I knew a time would come when the court would send her somewhere else. I continued to pray for the Lord to provide a refuge for her wherever she went. Maybe one day we could take a girl to the forensic doctor, and it would be Dr. Lydia.

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James 1:27, “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.”

This has been the vision for JPLA, and it is exciting to report the last part of that verse that addresses widows has been fulfilled, but not completed because the Redeemed Program will continue to grow.

Widows today include women struggling to care for their children. Many do not have husbands, and the male population has abused most.

James Project of Latin America has provided help for many women in dire states, but another area has opened up to help further. The Project purchased three manzanas (5 acres) and is building the first three homes to provide protection and a place for the women to find restoration in their lives.

Through donors, there is a wall around the property, a well with a pump, and electricity, and the construction crew is moving quickly to have the home ready for its new occupants.

We dedicated the Village of Hope to the Lord last month. Plans are to build 3 more homes on this piece of property. Recently, someone bought another three manzanas right next to this one, so the plans are expanding. 

 

 

Caty’s Refuge Traditional Fun

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  TRADITIONAL FUN

Girls who turn 15 prepare for a traditionally celebrated quinceanos party (fifteenth birthday party). Caty now had a legal birth date from the judge and joined in the planning. 

     The teens talked and dreamed about this event all year. Privileges included choosing a formal gown, buying fancy shoes and accessories. No one knew how much Caty understood about this fiesta. However, her eagerness to be involved in the preparations indicated she knew to jump into action for whatever came her way. 

     Standing in front of the dressing room mirror, Caty took both of her hands, pressed them to the bodice, and moved them down the calf-length red chiffon dress.

     “Do you like the dress?” She looked from me to the clerk grinning. “Okay,” I said, “this one is for you.” 

      A tug of war developed as I tried to get the dress off. “Caty, you get to take the dress home. The lady will put it in a bag for you.” Only then did she release her grip. Minutes later, with her head up high and bag in hand, we went to the car.

     At our next stop, Caty tried on a pair of high heels. We got the shoes on her, but she refused to take a step. 

     “Caty, it’s okay. You can hold my arm.” Her body did not move. “Do the shoes hurt your feet?” She didn’t respond. We coaxed, but she stared at the floor without moving. 

     I imagined this happening during the ceremony and decided to look at some low heels. However, even with those, she would need to practice walking. I told the girls my thoughts, and they agreed to help her do this between now and the party.

     The big day began when fireworks erupted at 5:00 am, followed by the birthday song. Half asleep, the girls dragged themselves to the basketball court to receive hugs and birthday wishes. This traditional start ignited the excitement and sent everyone scurrying to do their part in preparing for the evening gala. 

Caty watched every movement with a glow in her eyes.

   The older girls volunteered to help the fifteen-year-olds prepare for their magical night. Miriam chose Caty and carefully curled and styled her hair. With every hair sprayed in place, some of the other girls applied the makeup. Caty basked in the attention and barely moved during the entire time. When finished, she looked like a model in a Glamour magazine. 

     “Caty, look in the mirror and see your lovely hair-do.” 

     Teeheeing, she shyly gazed into the hand mirror. Her red gown and soft curls around her face accented the princess look. However, I still had concerns with the shoes and her lack of agility when she walked. 

     According to tradition, the girls wore old shoes when introduced and escorted onto the floor. The housemother sat with the new shoes, ready to display the move from the former and put on the new. This action symbolizes the teen going into womanhood. 

     Caty plopped on the chair while her tongue worked its way around her bottom lip and waited for her new shoes. Tia Cyndi took Caty’s stiff leg, trying to bend her knee and capture the foot. Unaware of the assistance needed, Caty scanned the crowd with her chest puffed out. With low heels on, the princess moved with less than grace beside the housefather, her hand resting on his arm. I breathed a sigh of relief.

     The ceremony continued with a video of each girl as they shared testimonies with glimpses of their future plans. I hadn’t been involved in the recordings and wondered how Caty responded. The screen showed a typical Caty. She looked down and waved her hand in greeting without saying a word. Everyone applauded with understanding, and our girl giggled. 

     Each gal received a virtue ring from the house parents as a reminder to save themselves for a future husband in honor and obedience to the Lord. After the pastor’s challenging talk and prayers, a delicious feast awaited them. An elegantly decorated cake followed while the guests sang the Happy Birthday song in Spanish and English. Caty’s face said it all as it reflected excitement and joy. 

     In the Guatemalan tradition, the activities ended with the eruptions into the dark sky—more fireworks.

Caty’s Refuge Chapter 8

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Caty’s Refuge Chapter 8

A New Family

Joanne and I had our antennas up for an environment to help with Caty’s emotional and mental development. Six years after she joined the Shadow family, I emailed our Guatemalan missionaries asking for options The next day, we received a call from a missionary couple who listened to Caty’s history and determined they could minister to her. They even considered adopting her into their family of two small children. Both wanted to fully invest themselves in her to help her recovery from the tragic past. After much discussion, meetings, and referrals, we released her into their custody. Caty, now 18, no longer belonged under the regulations of the children’s court. The transfer would move quickly. 

     Caty’s first meeting with the family took my breath away. We agreed to join them in Guatemala City for the final test, Caty’s reaction to them. When the couple and baby entered the room, Caty focused on the child and softly kissed the top of her head, did her giggle act, and ducked her head. She leaned up against the mother and looked ready to go. 

     “Caty, would you like to live with this family?” I said.

     With her mouth partway open, she licked her lips and moved closer to the mother.

     “I think that is a yes,” I said. “Okay, Caty, you won’t go this time because we need to pack your clothes and personal items. They will come and get you when everything is ready.” Her lips turned down when we left, and she did her slow plod behind me.

     We decided to give Caty all new clothes to help ease that burden on the family. I took her to the storeroom and pulled out a suitcase. 

     “You need some new tennis shoes. Pick out a pair from these.”

     Caty grabbed some and threw them into the suitcase. 

     “No, chic mia, try them on first.”

     She looked over the tops and picked out the most colorful ones. Her tee-hees filled the room while she tried on her selection. To her, Christmas had come. We returned to the casita with a full bag, where her inquisitive sisters waited. Caty seized the moment and explained to them about everything in her luggage.

     “Mira zapatos mios.” On she went for each item. I had never seen her say so much at one time and regretted we didn’t have it on video. 

      “We need to give her a going away party, “ Joanne said.

     Plans went into action, and the reality that she would leave walloped me. I felt reluctant to release her, but the time had come for the experience of a fuller life, and Caty deserved a grand farewell. 

     The older girls and house mothers set up the party on the basketball court. Caty’s shiny eyes and titters reflected how special she felt. The hugs and goodbyes with the house parents and children followed with many tears. Still, Caty continued to smile and be giddy, ready for her new venture. 

     Close communication followed with updates on Caty’s adjustment. The honeymoon period fell flat within a few weeks, and Caty resisted anything they encouraged. She wanted to sit on a bench and not move for the whole day and didn’t respond to anybody. Even the baby could not bring her around. 

     Initially, Caty told them more stories of her gory past. Donna showed Caty some pictures, and Caty pointed to one and called her Daniela. She described how Daniela killed her baby, and blood covered everything. Another time, Caty said a girl named Tabitha had been burned with hot water. This was the first time she called people from her past by names. Then Caty escaped into her hiding place and shut out everything else. The task became more complicated than the couple imagined, and even though their hearts wanted to minister to her, they could not do it. 

     What triggered Caty into past memories? Did she experience pain in missing her Shadow family? We listened to the family’s desperation and resolved Caty needed to return to Shadow. 

     Weeks later, another plan developed for Caty to live with an older single teacher. Caty had a close relationship with Tia Myra, and it seemed an excellent opportunity for her to learn life skills—one-on-one. They would live in Monjas so Caty could be around the people she loved. The Project helped with the expenses, and the arrangement would be an extension of the orphanage to help with Caty’s particular needs. Within weeks, the woman confessed she could not continue. We crossed that one off the list and moved Caty back to the Home.